Snippets of My Week #7

Sunday, September 21, 2014

While doing my Snippets I realized they are all about time with girlfriends.  This is perfect since rumor has it that International Women's Friendship Month is well under way.  These are some of the new adult friends I referred to in last week's post.  In no particular order, this is how I've enjoyed the week with them.


This is my view looking up from the bench I sat at with Tête-à-Tête having the most honest three hour conversation about relationships (friendship, marriage, dating, courtship, mothers and daughters) in a long time.  To say that I may have gotten a bit of whip lash from knocking my head back so much from laughing is an understatement.  There was a steady rotation of familiar passers by sitting on the neighboring bench or hanging back under the tree near us.  I do not think this was incidental.  I do believe some of the men who returned while their families were eating, shopping, and strolling were eavesdropping while "on their phones".  We didn't care. 

If you are a woman, and you have girlfriends, you know exactly what type of hilarity ensued from the kinds of privately raunchy and honest conversations only woman can produce together.   

Some people really don't change.  Time passes, people become parents and they are still the same kids who shocked and shook us up with their candor years before.  It is just that now, years later as true women, Tête-à-Tête is even better at dropping my jaw to the floor, and I absolutely love it.


Hers and hers granola at Jane on Fillmore

My girl date with @Fluxi over a "quick coffee" extended way beyond a late lunch.  We got along very naturally and had much to discuss.  As a blogger, I have a true admiration for her photography, her neighborhood guides, and her recipes on her blog, Fluxi On Tour.   After a brief chat at Create + Cultivate in L.A. last month, I was happy to have a chance to sit with her to hear her story, her creative process, and her longer term goals.  To meet a blogger with a work ethic and aesthetic sensibility I understand and hope to achieve myself tells me that I am on the right track.  

Lessons learned: 

Have passion - yes
Be genuine - always 
Discipline is imperative.
Even if Nobody Reads anything that one does, it must always be professional.     


The THURSDAY before last ...

The darling @AbacusRow took me out for a celebratory detox salad and indulgent Krispie treat (yes I cheated- for sure there's butter)  at Blue Barn Gourmet.  I love an impromptu midday date, but know I should not let these whims get in the way of a blogging/ work at home day.  Luckily on my birthday I was as free as I pleased, after a bit of shopping and a facial (but of course!).  We met  a year ago when I ordered last year's birthday present from her at the Renegade Craft Fair '13 and now this talented designer is one of the inspiring new friends who understands the creative chaos that resides in my mind.



Time for cocktails with Editor Eye once again, and the drinks at The Cavalier did not disappoint.  We actually talked about the 'girl date' as she was awaiting the arrival of a woman she'd met during her lunch break downtown.  "Men do not do this, do they? Ask other dudes out for a drink or salad?"  we laughed at the thought.  My husband can hardly commit to drinks with coworkers, much less wanting to make an effort to try out new guy-acquaintance-relationships for cocktails on a Friday night.  Their loss, I suppose.  Girls = 1; boys = 0.


FleurdeSel knows the way to my heart is a carrot coconut birthday cake.

Fleur de Sel and I talked about booking a double date with our mates for a while now, and finally it happened at the delicious Doc Rickettes.  Perhaps guys can do the man acquaintance date only with their wives in tow.  Here I am smiling at Mr. Fleur de Sel across the table as he and his lovely wife sang sweetly after the dairy free, gluten free, soy free carrot coconut cake she and I are obsessed with from Mariposa Bakery was presented. Husband took this picture.  Instant classic, I would say.  



Toffifay and I met up with my old co-teachers all the way in Mountain View at the Google campus where Teacher Birdie now works.  These bikes were begging to be ridden around the parking lot at the very least.  Since it was the end of the evening we spun around in the dark and I remembered why kids are completely fixated on the tricycles at school - you want to go further, faster, and challenge your friends.  I then slowed down after I imagined running Teacher Birdie into a lamp post by accident.  Even the loudest bike bell won't prevent a disaster like that.  



How was your week?  And a side note, if you are one of the people having a hard time leaving a comment on my blog (I really don't know what to do about that yet), please email me directly!  Our conversation needn't end just because Blogger is temperamental! 

Birthday Babe

Friday, September 19, 2014

My birthday banner and Toffifay's little tinsel crown (can you spot it?)

Having a 'milestone' birthday was not what had been preoccupying my mind.  It was deciding how to celebrate that nagged at me.    For at least one year I had been listening to people ask, 

What's your celebration going to be for the big four-oh?  Are you traveling?  Where will you go? 

Are you having a party?  You must have a party!  Have a girls' weekend!  Plan a group trip out of town!  Yes, let's do that!

It's one thing to embrace an idea and it is another to commit to an event. There are schedules, spouses, children, preferences, group dynamics, and budgets to consider.   In my mind, nobody but the celebrant is ever truly responsible for organizing her party and as enthusiastic as people were to get on board with anything I could have wanted:  Camping Extravaganza, Beach Retreat, Coastal Getaway, European Sojourn, Asian Adventure, Epic Picnic, Dive Bar Disco you name it -  I do not have the mental nor emotional bandwidth to execute an important plan like that the way I formulate it in my head.  So no, I would not be planning one of these great festivities in September, though maybe, at another time, I will.

Instead, all I wanted to do was to sit in my pajamas, cut paper, and talk on the phone with a gal pal.

So ...   

I texted some friends and sent out a Paperless Post.  A slumber party was in order.  I booked a hotel room for the hubby in a few weeks.  Of course he didn't mind.  Would he really want to sit through an evening of chattering girls and squealing?  No boys allowed!

Then ...

I cut a lot of paper.

I began crafting decorations.

I placed a custom order with Rose Paper Scissors Piñatas

Two weeks later I purchased a boat load of nostalgic sweets from The Candy Store in Russian Hill.  I then filled a drugstore cart with junk food and even more candy downtown. 

I took notes for some deliciously allergen free and nutritious recipes from It's All Good.

Truth be told, crafting the decorations took so much longer and required more energy than I expected so I decided to forgo cooking in favor of a 7 o'clock dinner order from Yemeni's Middle Eastern Restaurant and a 10 o'clock double large pie snack from Escape from New York Pizza.  Amidst the steady flow of candy, eight bottles of bubbly, and vodka infused hibiscus punch, the Mariposa chocolate cake at midnight rounded out things nicely.  

Thanks to the hubby for passing by to drop off more booze!  No boys allowed, unless they take a group picture.  Yay!

At 8:45am on the dot, Robin Duryea arrived for our 9 o'clock private roof deck yoga class.  ooOOOooommmmmm...  The sky was so beautiful and the class so relaxing, we all forgot we were in the city and not in an open field.  Even the birds were heard chirping on this amazing morning.

Saha Restaurant, widely known in the city for their popular Arabic Fusion dinners, served us up a crazy tasty brunch, available on weekends.  We were HUNGRY.  It was important for me to share what I love with the people I love.  Health and happiness - it's the name of the game!

Our spread at Saha.  True, I didn't bother styling the table.  I am still learning and was hungry.  

In between bites of breakfast, we decided to make a trip to BarneysNY for some product replenishing.  We were way glam in our yoga clothes, while some were slightly hung over and dehydrated, but that didn't stop us.  BarneysNY Beauty was so thoughtful for providing my friends with little gift bags of skin care products to play with at the sleep over, so the party continued at the beauty department naturally.

Touch ups at the Nars and Claudio Riaz counters.  Smelling, testing and loving our little goodies the night before.  

Nap time for me.  After parting ways, I slept like a rock star that afternoon from 4pm til slightly before 9pm, and STILL went to bed through the night and was up for yoga at 9am the following morning with Robin at the gym!  It was a great weekend, and it's still going ...

That's all folks!  This is what the weekend was for me, a chance to celebrate love, friendship and having the most fun possible while elevating the every day (isn't that someone's catch phrase?).   What's a birthday party without the right people to share it with?  I am blessed that the celebration is going on with all of my lovely friends in small ways throughout the month.  

Big isn't always better.    

Lately ... 09.16.14

Tuesday, September 16, 2014

Lately I've been ...

Listening and talking through these {Happy Plugs}
Writing with this {Pilot pen}

Running low on that {Fresh Sugar Lip Treatment}


Sending out these {crafted letter pressed cards}

Wanting to be twisted like this {hairstyle}

Hairstyle photo credit: whatthechung
All other photos taken by bp

This Is 40

Sunday, September 14, 2014

Gold and pink piñatas by Ashley Rose  of Rose Paper Scissors Piñatas

There is so much I am looking forward to learning in my next forty years.  So far, this is what I already know:

You can confide in your mom without judgement.

Now that I am an adult and my mom is in her seventies,  I find that I can talk candidly with her about my life, my thoughts, and my fears and she no longer makes any judgement.  She worries less about what she thinks I should do and is more concerned with what will make me happy.  She now taps into what's in my heart and holds it lovingly in her hands.

You can be your sister's hero, and like it.

My sister has always been independent and self reliant.  I lived through my youth with her telling me what to do.   Now she calls me for entertainment and inspiration, for venting and for seeking my two-cents.   I often come to her rescue.  I am her confidant and godmother to her children.  I am proud that I am someone she can count on.  

You can have more than one soul mate.

My best friends keep me focused on what is best for me, but remind me that my heart is worth listening to.  They push me to fulfill a purposeful life, but also teach me how to make concessions when emotions trump logic.   We cry when we say hello and cry when we say goodbye.  They redefine the meaning of 'soul mates'.  We are soul sisters.

You will continue to evolve during your marriage.

We oftentimes suppress who we are or who we have become in order to fit into the mold of what we think our lives as wives should be. It's not only marriage that changes us ... life does too.  We must be  honest enough to acknowledge personal change while working with it not against it.  A couple can still grow in the same direction, even if you fear that in changing, you may grow apart.  Be brave.  Be you.  Paths can re-converge, but in case they don't, at least you know you are on the path you paved for your truest self.

You can make new friends as an adult.

I hear all too often that it is impossible to make meaningful connections after college, and I acknowledge that it is a challenge.  But I know first hand that really good friends can be made as an adult.  I can't imagine my life at all without the incredible new people joining my adventure today.  I would not have met them unless I were this age, in this place, at this time.  New, genuine friendships can be made as an adult, I know that for sure.  

You can be deeply sad, depressed even, and it will not be the end of you.

Tomorrow is another day.   Loss of loved ones and disappointments make us stronger.   Moreover they make us softer, more sensitive, more patient and more understanding of life and of others in it.    The sun will always shine.  Always.  Just you wait and see. 

You can learn how to use what you know and make a life out of it.

I thought I would have to go back to school in order to determine what to do next in my life.  We don't realize that at this age we usually have the tools for the next chapter in our careers.  We just need to take inventory of what's hiding in the box, replace some parts, oil what's rusted, and find modern ways to use what we've got.

You can have an exciting time living a life you never expected to have, but secretly always wished for.

When I was fourteen I used to look out the window while being driven to school for forty minutes every morning.  Thoughts would come to mind and I wondered if one could ever just write about what's goes through her head, what she thinks of in her day and the musings that come from seemingly ordinary observations in her life.  Look at me now.  Who knew? 

You can still look in the mirror at forty and recognize the girl you were at fourteen.

This is 40.

Taken the evening of my 40th birthday. Au naturale, untouched.  09-11-2014

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